By Wendy Schuman
Originally Posted On March 28, 2014
"Find a need and fill it." That quote by Ruth Stafford Peale, the mother of positive thinking, was one of the 365 I unearthed for a daily inspirational newsletter I used to edit. When I lost my job three years ago, I never imagined I'd put it into practice: co-founding a program to help unemployed and underemployed young people launch their careers.
Actually, my fulfilling new venture wouldn't have happened if I hadn't been laid off from a job I loved at age 63.
For more than a decade, I'd been a senior editor of Beliefnet.com, an award-winning website on religion and spirituality based in New York City. When Beliefnet was sold and moved to Virginia, I became a boomer cliché, unemployed for the first time in more than 40 years. I’d always found great meaning through work. Now what?
"Most of my clients are normally people who had been executives and I help them broaden their minds to consider new avenues they might want to take," says Annette Cataldi, who runs Vive la Vie Coaching and Consulting in Grosse Point, Mich. With recent grads, Cataldi says, the work "involves focusing and narrowing down where to start and then coaching them on how to get into those positions.”
Convincing a Skeptic
Young people who approach us about the program can sometimes be suspicious, wondering whether something of value can really be free.
A case in point is Richard Chavez, who was 26 when he saw our Craigslist notice. "I was skeptical," he said. "I assumed it was some kind of scam.”
Richard had graduated from Kean University in 2009 with a major in journalism and communications and had been searching for a job for almost three years. To make ends meet, he was working part-time as a mailman and living at home with his parents.
Richard was quickly losing hope that he’d get started in any career, much less the one he wanted. He told us he was “desperate” and feared our program was bogus because con artists often pounce when people are desperate.
When he contacted us, Richard asked bluntly: "What's in it for you?"
We explained that we were concerned about his generation’s prospects for the future and had no hidden agenda.
Making a Coaching Match
Since Richard was interested in media, we paired him with Melissa Maher, a life coach in Oakland, Calif., and president of Live Well Coaching, who had previously worked for the Corporation for Public Broadcasting. They agreed to hold coaching sessions by phone once a week.
"The first question she asked," Richard says, "was, 'What do you really want to do?’ and my response was, ‘I just want to get a job!’ But the more I thought about it, the more I realized I was applying for jobs that, if I had a choice, I wouldn’t want.”
Talking things out with Melissa, Richard says, gave him confidence and clarity. “When someone asks you questions for an hour, it makes you think,” he says. “Friends can't help in the same way. I couldn't trap a friend to listen to me for an hour."
Building Up Courage
The coaching sessions convinced Richard that he wanted to pursue a career as a copywriter and develop other interests. At the end of one of their calls, he also revealed a long-held secret desire to do stand-up comedy.
"I'd been thinking about that for years, but I was super nervous about talking in front of people,” he says. After expressing his stand-up passion, Richard felt he should act on it and began appearing at open mic nights in New York and New Jersey. “Going onstage made me feel like I could accomplish other things," he says.
With Melissa’s help, Richard polished his résumé, bolstered his interviewing and networking skills and landed a job as an account representative for O’Sullivan Communications, a public relations firm in West Caldwell, N.J., where he writes copy for a client that represents major airlines.
Richard loves his job and after eight months there, he's moving out of his parent's house and getting a place with two friends.
Turning Part-Time Work Into Full-Time
Casey Larkin, a 2011 graduate of Boston University with a major in environmental analysis and policy, had moved back home to Middlebury, Conn., after a post-college internship with a Napa Valley winery. Although he wanted a full-time position that would put his environmental knowledge to use, he could only land part-time work as a marketing rep for Bright Currents, a solar energy startup in New Jersey.
We matched Casey with a young, energetic coach with a marketing background, Alison Graddock, who works for the Coach Training Division of the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching.
The two hit it off right away. "It was good to have someone who would challenge me,” Casey says. “I wrote down my goals and we narrowed them down, prioritizing what was most important to me and how we could achieve them together. She gave me homework after each coaching session and I knew if I didn't do it, she'd give me a hard time.”
A year later, at 24, Casey was promoted to become the company's regional manager in Connecticut, a full-time, supervisory role.
Life Coaching, Not Just Career Coaching
Casey, who needed to live at home because his father was very ill, also received helpful advice from his coach on handling that situation. "Alison encouraged me to talk to other family members to help my mom, who was in the process of becoming my dad's full-time caretaker,” he says. “She also helped me with personal stuff – to de-clutter my life, even clean my room and get on top of what I needed to do. Now that coaching is over, my mother really misses her, too.”
Results From the Innovative Program
Not every participant completes the Grad Life Choices program. In a few cases, clients didn't call in for their scheduled meetings, so they were dropped.
Fortunately, more than half who signed up have found career-track jobs, mostly in their chosen fields.
Even the ones who haven't found work say they’ve benefited from the program by learning more about their values and strengths. After facing a lot of rejections, they've also been happy to receive encouragement and support from people who care about them.
Growing the Original Idea
Ken and I now spend about seven to 10 hours a week on Grad Life Choices; it's fun working together to create something new. (Our last experience doing that was childrearing; this is a lot easier.)
Recently we started a LinkedIn group for coaches of Millennials and have initiated bi-monthly teleconferences where coaches share ideas for advising this age group. We've also developed a partnership with Drew University's placement office to offer free coaching to the school's alumni.
With so many young people in need of help, we'd love to expand the number of clients while keeping this a volunteer effort.
To a '60s person like me, Grad Life Choices fulfills a long-held desire to make the world a better place. It has also given my retirement years more structure and purpose. I feel closer to my husband, too.
Ruth Peale's admonition to "find a need and fill it" turns out to have been pretty good advice.