Suze Orman's Advice on Managing Long-Term Care Costs
Even the personal-finance guru struggled to find solutions when her mother needed help
By Sherri Snelling
Originally Posted On November 14, 2013
Suze Orman is one of the nation's best-known, most-trusted personal finance experts. A best-selling author and award-winning TV personality, she's become a guru for frugality and planning, advising millions to save for retirement, get out of debt and start a healthier relationship with money.
And yet, Orman now confesses, when it came time to become a caregiver for her late mother, she was as unprepared, emotionally and financially, as the rest of us.
It was just a few years ago when Orman realized that the harsh Chicago winter was taking a physical and psychological toll on her mother, Ann, who was then in her 90s and living alone. "She just stayed at home and wouldn't go out for months on end," Orman says. While Orman lived in San Francisco, her brothers were nearby – one lived in Chicago and picked Ann up for Sunday dinners. But that wasn't enough to maintain her spirits and health.
Following a family discussion about their mother's long-term care, Orman made an unusual decision: She not only moved her mother to an assisted living facility in Florida, but pulled up stakes herself. Orman and her wife left their Bay Area home and relocated to Florida so they could see Ann every day.
Moving cross-country to accommodate caregiving demands would be financially impossible for many Americans, of course. Today, more than 8 million of the nation's 65 million family caregivers live two or more hours away from the care recipient, says the nonprofit group Caring From a Distance
. About 42 percent of caregivers have moved a parent into their own home for three years or more, in large part to keep costs down, according to the Genworth 2013 Cost of Care study
The Rising Demand for Care
At least 70 percent of people over 65 will eventually need some form of long-term care, either at home or in a nursing home, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. That's an expense that will not be completely covered by Medicare. Most Americans are unaware of that fact. Orman knew, but says she had never succeeded in getting her mother to discuss and select a long-term care plan that would have covered her costs.
"I spent $25,000 a month the last two years of my mom's life to have around-the-clock care for her," Orman says. "I was lucky because I was in a position to afford the cost, something most Americans cannot do."
Last week, the federal Commission on Long-Term Care
, a task force created by Congress to suggest solutions for the gaps in long-term care coverage nationwide, issued recommendations
that recognized the tremendous financial burden of care costs on families. Its report included ideas to support the roles that family caregivers play in the system. But the panel offered no specific plan for financing the nation's long-term care needs.
Orman advises caregivers to avoid living in denial of the reality Bedlin describes. Doing so may cost families their financial stability and their own prospects for retirement. "It's easy to die," she says. "It's hard to age."
3 Guidelines to Follow
Orman has counseled members of her own extended family to secure long-term care plans only if they can afford the premiums and commit to paying into the plan for as long as 10 years. Her website
offers other financial-planning tools and guidance for completing must-have legal and financial family documents, but she shares these general tips for anyone facing the challenge of financing long-term care:
- Buy only what is affordable Don't stretch your resources to buy a long-term care policy that covers 100 percent of anticipated future costs. It makes no sense to buy a policy today that you will have to abandon in a few years because it is too expensive; you will get no benefit if that happens. It is smarter to buy the amount of coverage for which you are sure you can keep making premium payments. In other words, it's better to have a policy that will cover 25 to 50 percent of future costs than no policy at all.
- Insist on inflation adjustment The cost of care rises each year, so you need a policy whose benefit will also increase. Given the above-average inflation rate for health services, seek a 5 percent annual inflation adjustment.
- Aim for the shortest possible "elimination period." This is the time before your policy kicks in. If you have a 30-day elimination period, for example, that means you'd have to pay for your first 30 days of long-term care out of pocket. The shorter your elimination period – 30 days is typical – the pricier the policy. If your policy's period is 90 days or longer, make sure you have other assets that you could draw on to pay for care for that length of time.